Don't Look Back, You're Not Going That Way Sis

This past weekend, I took a trip to Nashville, TN for business and for pleasure. What I expected to be an amazing trip from start to finish turned out to test every part of my being. I experienced an event that really broke me. My spirit was broken. My confidence was broken. My heart was broken. My mind was broken. My faith was broken. I was all around broke. I started to doubt myself and everything that I had accomplished this far in life because of one failure. Something that took 2 hours of my day had me ready to throw away everything. I didn’t want to talk to anybody, I didn’t want to eat, I wanted to sit at my aunt’s house and soak in my disappointment. I knew that wasn’t possible but it’s what I wanted to do.

As I sat in the parking lot of the place where the event happened, I cried, I cussed and I was ready to give up when my mom and aunt called. My mom is my biggest cheerleader and my aunt cheers me on as well. They reminded me of one thing that I had forgotten, that the one failure does not erase all of the hard work I have put it. It does not count me out from winning and it sure in hell does not define me as a person.

I got knocked back a little but that doesn’t mean that I am going backwards. It just means that I am going to be moving forward with another lesson learned and stronger than I was before. Often times, we can be so hard on ourselves, especially those of us that are strong-willed, determined, and independent. We never want to see ourselves fail so when we do it hits use hard. Well, I am here to be that voice and let you know that you are bomb sis and you are going to win!

Here are 5 ways that I was able to make myself feel good enough to enjoy the rest of my weekend: 
  1. Cuss and cry. Honestly, letting it all out in the car made me feel a little better.
  2. Pray and cry. I know, I know. After cussing, I did pray and even though my faith was broken, I still held on to a mustard seed worth of faith.
  3. Go to nd shake somethin'. That night, I was invited out by fellow blogger Melissa of Fab Glance and we danced and laughed and enjoyed ourselves.
  4. Talk to family and friends. They made me see things that I wasn’t able to see because of my disappointment in myself at the time.
  5. Lastly, I remembered that things could be worse. Simple as it is. Things could always be worse so focus on the positive.
Remember sis, don't look back, you aren't going that way. 

T-Shirt: H&M (Old)
Skirt: Target
Boots: Ross Dress for Less
Jacket: Levi's (gifted)

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  1. That skirt is Fantastic on you. No looking back. . Onward we go.

  2. So encouraging!!! I didn’t get my dream job yesterday... the job that I knew would set myself and my husbands life on fire! And my 1st and 2nd interviews were perfect... but it wasn’t for me. Friends and family did help! Maybe there was something at this job God was protecting me from? Who knows. But all I know is something better is coming. Without a test we wouldn’t have a testimony. Bless up sis! Stay encouraged.